We have all been there. You have a Private account. You open your notifications and see a “Follow Request” from someone you definitely do not want to see your weekend photos.
Maybe it’s your boss. Maybe it’s an ex. Maybe it’s that nosy auntie who comments on everything.
You want to hit that Delete (X) button, but you are scared. Will they get a notification saying “Rahul rejected you”? Will it create drama?
I tested this with two phones sitting side-by-side to see exactly what happens. Here is the answer.
The Short Answer: No.
Instagram does NOT send a notification when you decline a follow request.
There is no alert, no pop-up, and no email. To the other person, it looks like nothing happened. The request simply vanishes from your end.
However… They Can Still Find Out (If They are Smart)
Just because there is no notification doesn’t mean you are totally safe. If this person is acting like a detective, they can figure it out easily.
Here is the “Tell-Tale” Sign: When they sent the request, the blue button on your profile changed to a grey “Requested” button.
If you hit Delete:
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Instagram quietly cancels the request.
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If they visit your profile again later, that grey “Requested” button will turn back into the blue “Follow” button.
If they see the blue “Follow” button again, they know: “Ah, I requested them, and now I have to request again. That means they deleted me.”
[Insert Screenshot: Side-by-Side comparison. Image A: The ‘Requested’ button. Image B: The button reverting to ‘Follow’.]
The “Limbo” Strategy (A Better Way to handle it)
If you are worried that rejecting them will make things awkward (like with a coworker), don’t reject them.
Just leave the request sitting there. Forever.
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Why this works: As long as the button says “Requested,” they think you just haven’t been online or haven’t checked your notifications yet. They can’t prove you ignored them.
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The “Ignore” Trap: Unlike Facebook, Instagram doesn’t show you as “Ignored.” It just looks “Pending.”
“Oops, I Accidentally Accepted Them!” (The Panic Fix)
If your finger slipped and you accidentally hit Confirm instead of Delete, don’t panic. You can fix it without them knowing if you are fast enough.
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Go to your Followers list immediately.
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Search for their name.
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Tap Remove.
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Crucial Step: This also does not send a notification. However, if they were online when you accepted, they might have seen a brief “Rahul accepted your request” notification before you removed them. Speed is key!
Summary Checklist
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Delete Button: Safe to use. No notification sent.
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Risk: They can see the button changed back to “Follow.”
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Safest Bet: Just leave them in “Requested” limbo if you want to avoid drama.
